Tuesday, April 20, 2010

You've Got Me All Wrong

...and the sad thing is, it's my fault.

I was reading on this blog the other day and read something really interesting.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to find a blog you love…and then try to create its clone. One of the greatest things about blogs is that they afford us the opportunity to get to know the individual behind the blog. Blogging is part of social media because it’s just that: social. Let your personality come through. If you’re goofy, be goofy. If you’re feisty, be feisty. If you’re contemplative, be contemplative. Your readers will be drawn to what you have to say, but they will also be drawn to who you are. BE YOU.

I've been spending so much time trying to figure out how I can fit in with this crowd of people 10 years older than me. They have kids. They have homes. They like doing different things than me. They're in a completely different stage of life. They go to different churches, eat different food, have a different family situation. Heck, they're probably blonde.






I've been wasting so much energy worrying about what they are doing and how I can fit into that mold. I've poured over hundreds of different scrapbooking kits and tried to figure out what "my" style is, but my style is suffocating underneath everyone else's. This isn't to say that I can't be inspired by other people, because one click on that inspiration tab will clear that up right away. I love getting new ideas and learning from people who are clearly my superior.

I'm more getting at the idea that I've been so stressed out about becoming like them that I'm hardly giving myself any credit for my abilities. So here's the "me" I think you've been missing out on.

  1. I am 21 years old. Not "20-something." I'm 21. I'm young. Some people will probably read that as "naive." Maybe they're right, but maybe that's not such a bad thing.

  2. I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and I am happy to answer any questions that arises. I do ask that you pose your questions in a respectful manner, though. I believe in standing up for what you believe in and that morals should never be sacrificed.

  3. I work as an account manager at Marketecture, Inc. in Orem, Utah. I love my job and have great co-workers, but I sincerely hope I can work/blog from home after we move to Iowa next year.

  4. A bigger part of me hopes I have an excuse to stay at home when we move to Iowa next year because I believe the "most important work we will ever do is within the walls of our own homes."

  5. I've wanted to be a homemaker since I was a little girl.

  6. I pop my knuckles.

  7. I'm inspired by music and can remember the lyrics to almost any song that I hear twice.

  8. My family used to call me high-maintenance...then I got married.

  9. I like vintage colors and Martha Stewart.

  10. I've kissed the lead guitarist of my favorite band EVER.

  11. I have a SEVERE phobia of spiders. My brother Rick has a hand-puppet spider named Phillip that has made me burst into tears on more than one occasion.

  12. I play the guitar and sing and have written my own stuff on occasion.

  13. I have a mustard yellow purse.

  14. I refuse to get an iPhone. I have no desire to be that connected all the time.

  15. My current goals are to eat more fresh produce, watch less television, and put C first 100% of the time.

  16. I don't like medicine. I've been contemplating at-home natural childbirth and being married to a future chiropractor rocks because a healthy lifestyle just comes naturally.

  17. I used to have over 50 different flavors of lipgloss. I'm down to 4 because C doesn't like kissing me when I have it on. Perhaps a shiny chapstick would work better. Do you know of any?

  18. I sing. ALL THE TIME. When I was growing up, my dad would listen to me for about 2 hours before he'd tell me to "give it a rest."

  19. I think my parents are flawless, my siblings are super talented, funny, wonderful, etc. & I completely scored on the in-law front. From C's parents, to siblings, to the entire extended family: they're awesome.

  20. I believe in true love and I believe that "spark" never has to go away.

  21. I believe "that's just the way I am" is a total cop-out, but "that's just the way I am right now" is legit. It takes time to break habits.

That's a lot of "me." I'm flawed. I'm imperfect, but it's the real deal. My designs are a reflection of me. I've been trying so hard to fit into this saturated market of digital scrapbooking designers, but I don't really want to fit in. I want to stand out! I want to bring something to the table that no one else has! And that's the belief that you can scrap about something besides your kids, husband, etc. You should be able to scrap your own prom, not have your mom do it for you. You can be young and classy. You can and should create your own style. I love jumbo monograms, so I made some. [They'll be in the shop soon.] I love yellow, so I made this kit [inspired by my mustard yellow purse, and my sister Jessica.] There's nothing wrong with scrapping an entire album on a white background. Non-handwriting fonts are OK to use for journaling! It is OK to shop in the little boys section.

So what about you? Got anything you need to get off your chest?


  1. this post was inspired, and lovely, and perfect.

    simple as that.

  2. I think it's wonderful to be naive, and to try to keep as much naivety as possible. People say that infants are pure when they come here - isn't that what we're striving for? Purity? So wouldn't it be better to not lose, but gain back naivety? (my definition of naivety is less simple-minded and more innocent-mined)

    I pop knuckles too!

    I've never been a lip-gloss person, but for Mike sometimes I've worn some because, really, it makes your lips so much more seductive. So he likes the look, but hates kissing it! So I just stick with my good old Soft Lips chap stick.

  3. good for you, you are growing up so fast to learn all that...{that was totally sarcastic!} i am sorry! see, sarcasm is hard to understand in type...anyway, loved it. you do stand out, you are 6 feet tall! see, sarcasm again! sorry! no really, i love you and love everything you bring to the table, even if you kick my tush at games or eat way healthier than i do!

  4. you.. are my "they" I bought lots of lip gloss, put a flower in my hair, swore by my fekkai, still want to marry a Mr. Amazing, wish I had a little bit of your eye for design, and know with every bit of my heart that we live to far away. I guess learning to be me, while having a 'they' like you in my life isn't a bad thing. In fact I know it's not.

    jessica nan

  5. Kristen,

    I think the only thing I caught from that post was


    Hello, that is like right across the river from this flat city I live in! What city will you be in? When are you coming and can I help you move in?

    Ok, there, I got all of my crazy feelings out. But seriously, call me ASAP because I would love to hear about this EXCELLENT news! :) Love ya!

    Jenni Seaman

  6. That was fun to read! Your style is wonderful-- I'm excited to see all that you come up with! Iowa will be an amazing adventure. I bet you guys are getting excited! Way to go on pursuing your scrappiness. I think you do excellent and love seeing your new stuff! There's a lot you can teach me {not that I'm going into it professionally... just for fun} and I will probably ask you for some pointers soon...

  7. Oh my, I'm shocked and dismayed. Now that I know the real you, I'll never be able to visit again. I hate knuckle crackers! ;-)

    Be you, you're the only one who can.

  8. I found your site from Kenna's and I loved this post. I use Silk & Shine lip gloss from Blistek. It's awesome. P.S. I gave up the big career to be a mom and have never looked back. You're right that it's the best (and hardest) job ever.